Ignoring Astarion is the best way to win his heart in Baldur’s Gate 3

Stephanie Zucarelli
Astarion in Baldur's Gate 3

Baldur’s Gate 3’s approval rate system dictates which companion you can romance. But what should you do when you’re stuck with Astarion always disapproving of your good-aligned choices?

Most Baldur’s Gate 3 companions aren’t difficult to romance, but those who fall in love with Astarion admit that there’s a bit of a learning curve when trying to gain his approval. Since the Pale Elf usually disapproves of every good-aligned option, most players think he’s better suited for evil playthroughs.

However, Astarion’s fans completely disagree. In Baldur’s Gate 3’s subreddit, a player named “slyderka” argued that the vampire is filled with contradictions and that players don’t truly understand how the approval rate works in his storyline.

“Obviously he is not a ‘good’ person but unless you do evil things yourself or push him to be the worst version of himself he is pretty neutral. He doesn’t care what you do as long as you like him and help him with his personal quest,” they described.

Astarion being an evil romance option seems to be a misconception led by the fact that players can’t really see how much their choices weigh in the approval system.

“People also often think those ‘companion approves’ and ‘companion disapproves’ are weighted evenly when they aren’t. Astarion slightly disapproves of helping everyone but massively approves when you pick the team first or choose to protect each other,” explained a player.

Fans also pointed out that it made sense that Astarion wouldn’t be pleased by a player who is always trying to save others, especially because he feels bitter about the fact that no one saved him from Cazador.

Baldur's Gate 3 Astarion, the Pale Elf
Astarion frowns upon you helping people without asking anything back.

Sadly, Baldur’s Gate 3 players only get to understand how his past influences his approval rates once they reach Act 3 when it’s too late to romance him.

Meanwhile, fans agreed that you can achieve a fully good playthrough if you ignore every moment Astarion disapproves of your choices. “See it like this: when you help everyone you come across, Astarion rolls his eyes at you and mutters under his breath. When you help him, he’s actually touched by you respecting him,” concluded a fan.

That’s everything on why ignoring Astarion is the best way to win his heart during your adventure in Baldur’s Gate 3. If you want to know more about Larian Studios’ RPG, you can check out how to solve all of Shadowheart’s woes during the early game, or the best options for the Level 6 spell slot.